Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy in NY & NJ

If you’re an anxious, childfree woman who feels pulled in a hundred directions internally — one part of you pushing, another part exhausted, another part terrified of slowing down — IFS therapy helps make sense of all of it without judging any of it.

Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy is an evidence-based, trauma-informed approach that views anxiety, burnout, self-criticism, and emotional overwhelm not as flaws, but as protective parts that developed for a reason.

I offer online IFS therapy for women in New York and New Jersey, specializing in anxious, childfree women rebuilding after trauma, burnout, identity shifts, or sudden life changes.

What Is Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy?

IFS therapy is based on a simple but powerful idea:

You are not broken.
You are made up of parts.

Each part of you has a role — even the anxious one, the perfectionist, the overthinker, the part that shuts down, or the part that keeps pushing no matter the cost.

In IFS therapy, we don’t try to eliminate these parts.
We get curious about them.

We learn:

• why they exist

• what they’re protecting you from

• what they need now

• how to lead your inner system with more calm, clarity, and self-trust

At the core of IFS is Self — the grounded, compassionate, steady part of you that can hold everything without being overwhelmed.

Who IFS Therapy Is For

IFS therapy is especially helpful if you:

• feel internally conflicted or “at war with yourself”

• struggle with anxiety, rumination, or chronic overthinking

• carry a harsh inner critic

• feel burned out from holding everything together

• experience emotional swings you can’t explain logically

• have done talk therapy but still feel stuck

• are rebuilding after a breakup, loss, trauma, or sudden change

• are navigating identity shifts as a childfree woman

• feel disconnected from your needs or intuition

Many of the women I work with are capable, self-aware, and outwardly “fine” — but internally exhausted.

IFS therapy helps you stop fighting yourself and start working with your internal world instead.

How IFS Therapy Helps with Anxiety and Trauma

Anxiety often comes from parts of you that learned to stay alert to danger — emotionally, relationally, or internally.

IFS helps by:

• slowing down anxious spirals

• creating internal safety

• understanding what anxiety is protecting you from

• reducing shame around emotional reactions

• helping your nervous system settle

• addressing trauma gently, without overwhelm

Instead of asking, “What’s wrong with me?”
IFS asks, “What happened — and who learned they had to protect me?”

This shift alone can be deeply relieving.

What IFS Therapy Looks Like in Our Work Together

1. We build safety and trust inside your system.

Before going anywhere difficult, we help your nervous system feel grounded and supported.

2. We identify and get to know your parts.

Anxious parts. Critical parts. Avoidant parts. Exhausted parts.
Each one has a story — and we listen.

3. We help you access Self-leadership.

This is the calm, curious, compassionate place within you that can hold complexity without being hijacked by it.

4. We gently heal wounded parts.

Trauma and pain are approached with care — at your pace and with full permission of all your other parts and protectors — without forcing, reliving, or rehashing.

5. We rebuild your internal foundation.

As your inner system becomes more regulated and connected, life outside therapy often feels clearer and more manageable.

Why IFS Works Especially Well for Anxious, Childfree Women

Childfree women often carry unique internal pressures:

• high self-expectations

• identity questions

• grief that isn’t always acknowledged

• societal messaging about “shoulds”

• responsibility without relief

• chronic emotional labor

IFS therapy helps:

• untangle internalized expectations

• reduce guilt and self-blame

• support identity clarity

• create internal permission to rest

• build self-trust and confidence

• move forward without abandoning yourself

IFS doesn’t ask you to become someone else.
It helps you fully understand all the parts that make up your unique human personhood.

IFS Therapy for Trauma, Burnout, and Life Transitions

IFS therapy is effective for:

• anxiety disorders

• trauma (big or small)

• childhood emotional neglect

• relationship trauma

• burnout and chronic stress

• grief and loss

• identity transitions

• perfectionism and people-pleasing

You don’t need a single “big trauma” for IFS to help.
IFS works beautifully with the slow accumulation of stress, responsibility, and emotional overwhelm that many women carry quietly for years.

Online IFS Therapy in New York & New Jersey

I offer IFS therapy virtually, making it accessible for women across NY & NJ.

Online IFS therapy allows you to:

• attend sessions from your own space

• feel safer and more regulated

• integrate therapy into real life more easily

• receive consistent support without travel

I am a Level 1 IFS-trained clinician and integrate IFS with other trauma-informed approaches to meet your specific needs.

What Clients Often Notice After IFS Therapy

Clients often describe feeling:

• calmer internally

• less reactive

• more self-compassionate

• clearer in decision-making

• less overwhelmed by emotions

• more connected to themselves

• less ruled by anxiety or inner criticism

IFS doesn’t erase emotions — it helps you relate to them differently.

Ready to Rebuild from the Inside Out?

If anxiety, trauma, or internal conflict have been running your life, IFS therapy can help you understand yourself more deeply and rebuild your internal foundation with care.

I offer online EMDR therapy for women across New York and New Jersey, specializing in supporting women who are rebuilding after unexpected change, loss, or emotional collapse.